Anythings possible when you design your life... 3 keys to living by design!
- Theresa Dobson
- Dec 6, 2020
- 4 min read
So what does it mean to live a life by design? And how do you know if you are truly living by design? The concept came to me when I heard the question posed.. “Are you living your life by design or by default? “
I have always believed that people are creatures of habit and habit is really the definition of default. I have always struggled to adopt rigid habits and sometimes that has been a good thing , it has helped me to be flexible, open minded, adventurous and willing to try new and better ways of doing and seeing things. On the flip side default habits sometimes free us up to focus and keep our energy moving forward. Like calories , you need enough( good habits) to sustain you. If you have empty calories ( bad habits) or too many calories ( rigid living) it will adversely affect your health overall sense of well being. Habits are useful but shouldn't be in control of our life and future- we need to be!
When a person is living primarily from habit and routines they are living by default. If the habits, (including their habitual thoughts), and routines are good, positive and healthy, they probably have a life that reflects that, but like a diet, there's always the need for tweaking and adjusting - especially as you age! Old habits can keep you on a narrow path leading you through ‘average” terrain and never taking you to breathtaking places and experiences! For some people habits are even a prison that keeps them from their dreams and desires. ! I think life should be full of moments that take your breath away and inspire aw!
If you want to live by design, asses your habits, adjust your habits and make sure they are serving your highest good. Be aware of the balance of power between you the CEO , master of your life and the staff ( default thoughts and habits) .
If you want to live a life of power and possibilities vs a life of default consider these 3 key factors:
3 key to living a life by design!
Awareness, Assessment, Attitude!
1. In living a life by design you must first become keenly aware that you are primarily in control of this journey and you choose the paths you want to take, the destinations and the experiences you want to have and believe you can handle all the consequences and outcomes your will encounter. You become like the CEO of your life and you want it to be a 5 star company, serving your highest good and that of others! This is your #1 full time job , staying aware and intentional in your thinking and your actions. You must plan (design), prepare , prioritize and tackle the obstacles and challenges with a faith and strength that screams…“ I got this , Carpe Diem!"
2. Life shouldn’t be happening to you , you should be happening to it! You came here as a one of a kind ball of energy with your own collection of strengths and attributes to fully experience and to bestow on this planet and it’s inhabitants .
How are you commanding that energy and how are you honoring those attributes ( natural strengths) Have you done an assessment of your true nature , likes, passions, preferences and made conscious choices to honor and use them or have you let the world tell you , albeit subtly over time, who you are , what to do and how to live? Take some time to assess your strengths and let them be the sail to your life, taking you to the places YOU choose to go! Here are a few online tests to help you assess your strenghts :https://high5test.com/ , https://positivepsychology.com/strength-finding-tests/ ,https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx3.
3. Are you a possibility thinker or a problem solver? Where's your focus? When’s the last time you sat down to DREAM? If you are thinking , "come on, who has time to dream, that’s all woo-woo , the real world isn’t like that. “Work has to be done, bills have to be paid and happiness...that’s a luxury, I’m happy enough”. If that is you , I am here to hopefully snap you back to a more hope filled reality one that you may have abandoned some time ago or maybe so long ago you feel like you never had lived in anything but a reality of struggle and challenge. Whether it was last year or long ago , It was a time when you should have continued dreaming and planning out those dreams but you got lulled by the energy of confusion, pain, rejection, materialism, frustration or dogma. Remember when that was? It’s time to leave there - it’s time to dream again! Enter the realm of P O S S I B I L I T I E S!
You must get in the habit of literally dreaming of different “possibilities” outside of the bubble you are bouncing around you call life. Push the boundaries . Think about your ideal life scenario, or other lifestyles and places you “could’ live, other good experiences you can still have , trips you “can’ take, people you “could” meet, Or the person you “can“ become ! Ways you could behave or “handle’ life from now on, and when problems arise or come to mind .. ask your self "what's a good possible outcome, solution or action I have not considered or allowed myself to belief" I am not advocating going in to denial . There are many possibilities that are available without denying the facts and realities of your "current" situation.
A simple attitude shift from thinking about problems and life's minutiae , to thinking about possibilities will shift you in to that divine empowered energy you were created from and that will propel you forward to tackle any obstacle or challenge! You'll start living by design!
Start thinking what’s possible, simply just.... "POSSIBLE " ??? Spoiler alert.....Anything is possible!!!
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