You are not a number!

In today's world numbers seem to be defining us more and more. The number on the scale, the number of followers, our credit score, our salary, our bank balance, our net worth, our test scores or job performance scores, etc. The pressure to keep them all "perfect" quite frankly is exhausting!

Have you ever felt like " YOU" are getting overlooked in all the numbers or "you" are just a Number? I have until I remind myself that I am a human being changing and growing, and my "numbers" are always in some kind of flux.

and so are YOU! I see you!

I've taken the pressure off and if and when you feel the need to as well here are my

3 tips to help you detach from your numbers!

1. Quit the shame and comparison game! How often do you compare your #'s to others, the "norm" or the elite "others"? Are you comparing and monitoring your weight, your salary, net worth, credit score, against others? Ask yourself why? Are you in a race, a battle, or maybe a cooperative game? I have heard life compared to all of those and many other things. What you believe life is will make all the difference in your experience and how important the numbers become. I often have to stop and remind myself of what life Is ( to me) because I lose perspective in the chaos, calculating and comparing. I venture to guess you do as well. So, "what is life for you?" Is it a race, a battle, an experiment, an adventure, a lesson, a mystery, a collaborative game? Can you frame it so that your numbers aren't the focus, the prize, the measure, or the shadow that hangs over you? Can you put the numbers into a proper perspective so you are not a slave to them but a master of them? ( a human, imperfect master that is- not GOD!)

2. Measure with compassion! We, humans, love to measure and categorize things. It gives us a sense of control and purpose. When we miss the mark and think we are not measuring up to a standard or goal we often categorize(label) ourselves or our behavior unkindly or harshly. How easy it is to lose perspective about why we gained that 10lbs, why we didn't save enough money, didn't create enough good posts to get more followers, didn't work hard enough or smart enough to earn the "big money " like so and so makes..etc, etc. Here again, perspective is critical! When we are focused on the shortfall we are not seeing the gains or good in the picture. Maybe the comfort of food during a stressful time that led to the 10lbs was better than the emotional breakdown, and hey it's 10 lbs you can lose it when you are ready! (even if it's 100lbs - regret will not serve you but compassion and caring will! ) Be kind, the you that made the choices has grown and evolved and STILL IS- for that matter, always will be. Be compassionate of your "yesterday self", love that self AND today's self with whatever numbers go along with you!

3. The most important "value" is your value! Your personal and spiritual growth and evolution in this world is the greatest value of all values! Be careful how much time you spend attaching your value to your numbers. Work as hard at affirming, knowing, believing, and protecting your intrinsic value as you do at improving, protecting and defending your other "values"(aka numbers)! You were born a perfect value and that never decreases or is subpar to anyone else's...that's the most important "value" to know at all times!!

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