What's LOVE got to do with it?

(Part 1 of 2)

Can you hear Tina singing it? ... "Oh-oh, what's love got to do, got to do with it?

What's love but a second-hand emotion?" hmm a secondhand emotion. I beg your pardon I am going to disagree with that statement! Love is NOT a second-hand emotion! I hold it with the highest regard as do most people. It's the stuff that dreams are made of, the holy grail, the ultimate "emotion", God!

Now lust and attraction may very well be a "second-hand emotion" but I guess that wouldn't make the song sound so good "oh - oh what's lust got to do with it?" even though it seems what she is really speaking of, Why not say lust? Firstly, because lust is such an outdated word, fraught with religious undertones that offend and imply judgment - both of those equally not so popular concepts these days either. Secondly, because our culture does not really want to speak of such serious matters as real Love. That's too deep for our 20-second attention spans and impulsive superficial appetites to deal with. No, our modern. society ( majority) seems to want to keep the focus on important matters like politics, movie stars, health crises, and acquiring more stuff! (Sorry for the cynicism, hang with me there is light in my message, I promise!)

It's funny that the word LOVE is so revered yet so ambiguous and yes, widely misused!

What does it even mean anymore and what does it have to do with modern-day life? With you and Me! Is it an emotion? a noun? a verb? a religious or moral concept or construct? fixed or mutable? and who needs to or has time to think about such things as the meaning and depths of REAL LOVE when there are pandemics, financial crisis, political unrest, wars, famines, and global warming to figure out not to mention dinner to make, shows to watch, stuff to buy and kids to bathe! ( seems to me those are all the more reason!)

Love is not and should not be a topic reserved for in-depth exploration by philosophers, theologians, preachers, poets, writers, greeting card, and songwriters, yet when's the last time you had a real discussion with someone on the topic of LOVE? It's curious to me how people discuss politics and celebrity gossip more than such a supposedly revered thing as LOVE.

It's as though we all think we are experts at it, have it all figured out, and can just cruise on auto-pilot or not give it much thought until maybe a Sunday service mentions it, or for those not practicing a faith, maybe a holiday, sappy movie or an occasion like a wedding or new baby brings LOVE to mind. Short of that, day-to-day love is just a feeling, a "second hand' emotion and a set of behaviors we put on autopilot until we are called out by someone because of a snarky, angry or hurtful, often unintentional, deviation we made from it.

I encourage you to switch out of autopilot and give some thought to LOVE, and what's it got to do with YOU!?

We each have our own understanding/definition and "language" of Love , one that we formulated based on our upbringing, religious and social influences, and maybe some introspection along the way. Are you willing to learn a bit more about LOVE, and MAKE IT A PRIORITY, and not assume you have it mastered? (unless you are Jesus or Buddha , I think they can skip this exercise) Trust me it's far more rewarding a topic to give some attention to than the bills, the news, your diet, goals or the challenges you think are ahead.. as a matter of fact, it just might offer some insight and aid to all of that!!

In Part 2 we will explore ...

How your focus and beliefs about LOVE are helping or hindering you from having it and sharing it!...

In the meantime, if you are interested in exploring your LOVE beliefs, blocks and goals consider booking a free sample session with me and we'll plot a course to a future you will LOVE!! visit me at lifebydesignwiththeresa.com